Made in heaven

So I was bored and was browsing through some 'love compatibility' websites recently during my idle work time, and guess who's birth dates I entered?

It turned out that me and him just happen to have one of the most unfavourable astrological match, be them in Western Horoscope, Chinese Astrology or heck even Feng Shui Pa-Kua. And I was actually quite surprised that some of the descriptions are rather accurate:

"The Rabbit man is subject to periodic spells of depression and pessimism. He may meet the joyous Rooster woman while in this frame of mind and immediately become infatuated with her. On the other hand, his seriousmindedness and patrician manners are likely to appeal strongly to her. It is certainly not impossible for them to achieve happiness together, but the odds against their union are of such magnitude that they should think at least twice before taking the plunge."

"Rooster Man and Rabbit Woman. There are dangers inherent in this relationship, which make it a hazardous one. While their sharp differences drew them together, the partners will find it extremely difficult to reach agreement once they have joined their destinies. Mutual concessions alone will not be sufficient in securing success; there will also be the need of favorable circumstances."

As you can see, due to the political incorrectness of the website, one just had to be the woman, and since I'm not sure which of us should or even can be labeled as the 'woman', I tried both combinations. But what do you know, both combinations seem just as bad anyway, lol.

"This is a combination of classic extremes--Fire and Water. This combination can be made to work, if both of you stick to the idea of dependence verses independence. If the two of you could get into a partnership where one earns no matter what, and the other one takes care of things at home and conserves, come what may, you'd be taking advantage of the strength of both signs. With this partnership, there can be an excellent understanding. If both of you do both the things half way, this relationship could lead to tremendous explosive situations.

Cancer is soft and gentle but those claws come out as soon as a Cancer perceives danger of capture. A Cancer may even retreat into their own shell and will not come out, no matter how much pushing and shoving an Aries exercises. In their physical union, an Aries is driven by a higher sexual drive than Cancer, but both of you will accommodate each other if understanding exists. An interesting combination!"

I for one really appreciate the fact that this Western Astrology tried it's best to put a good spin on the otherwise 'interesting' combination :-)

There was also this other Chinese Astrology test which I tried, and from a compatibility range of +10 to -10, the result from my birth date and his came out to be.. '-5'. I wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry seeing the result :-/

The only more positive result came from the calculation of the compatibility of our biorhythms, which is at 78%. Well always glad to know that we are not yet a total disaster.

Truth is, all this while I never quite buy into all these destiny-written-in-the-stars stuff, not even when my dad told me that his parent warned him before about being astrologically incompatible with my mom before they were married and that now my dad believes there is indeed some truth in his parent's words.

But you know what, having said that, my dad also told me he instinctively knew that my mom was the woman he'd marry someday the first time he met her. And though it's a fact that they argued and fighted every other day throughout my 25 years of life, and that they also often bitched to me how much they hated each other's character, somehow I know, that they do love each other very much. Their union may not be made in heaven, it is no less true.

And recently as I got myself addicted to chasing episodes of Desperate Housewives, thanks to some interesting conversations between him and his hyterical (as in funny, not insane) friend, I found myself identifying with the Van de Kamp couple. They may not have had the best compatibility and the happiest life, but they loved each other until the end.

One of my favourite quotes by Sam Keen, "You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”

So now that I know me and him aren't exactly the golden boys' match in heaven, it just made me want to make it work all the more, cos I've always believed that our own destinies are up to us to shape. Be it for better or for worse, I'll give it my best try.