The Attainability Index

The early stage of courtship, is what I find among the most difficult.

Some told me I should not show my interest too much early in this stage to avoid looking like one of those desperate guys. But I detest, how little interest should I show enough to let the other party know that I AM interested but yet not look desperate?

I'm in constant struggling and dilemma. Should I call him? Should I ask him out again? Should I text him after the meeting? Or should I wait for him to make the move and risk letting him misunderstood that I'm not interested? What if he is thinking the same and we ended up not going anywhere because we both were too afraid to make the first move?

I came up with a formula:

Attainability Index X Desirability Index

The more attainable you seem, the less desirable others might find you, and vice versa.
So in order to maximize your desirability, you should minimize your attainability. The question again is, how unattainable should you be before others find you to be totally unattainable and hence causing a backfire effect?

It's often agonizing to try acting so cool in front of someone you like so tremendously that I wonder why do we do such things that betray our true feelings.

I think we are all pretty much insecured these days, for I feel awfully fearful whenever I fall for someone. The better things seem to go, the greater my fear becomes, because I feel the more I gain, the more I have to lose.

Yet still, it does not stop me from keep wanting for that elusive thing called love..