Hang up the phone

Lately I have came across stories of relationships where one party confessed not really loving his bf and that the reason they are still together is because he do not want to hurt his bf or he is afraid of whatever bad consequences that might befall him should he leave his bf.

I have been through a similiar situation before, so I can understand somewhat their dilemma. Being in a relationship gives us a sense of security, and it's always easier to tell ourselves to remain in a safe situation (being loved) than to break out of it and become single (alone/vulnerable) again, for some of us can remember how depressing being alone can be.

But I have learned it the hard way, that a relationship is not a place where we go for just shelter and be safe in, it's supposed to be a mean to bind two loving person together, where both sides crave for each other and want to be with each other just as much.

However, it seems many have made a prison out of it, trapping themselves along with the other parties in the illusion of love.

It is disheartening to see when this happen, therefore I have learned to be much more honest to myself and others nowadays.

It's one thing to live in other's love, it's another thing to live in a lie.